{"id":1738,"date":"2013-04-15T01:53:53","date_gmt":"2013-04-15T05:53:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dealdashblog.com\/?p=1738"},"modified":"2013-04-15T01:53:53","modified_gmt":"2013-04-15T05:53:53","slug":"redo-your-ceilings-for-more-wins-and-fewer-bins-at-dealdash-com","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.dealdash.com\/blog\/redo-your-ceilings-for-more-wins-and-fewer-bins-at-dealdash-com\/","title":{"rendered":"Redo Your Ceilings for More Wins and Fewer Bins at DealDash.com"},"content":{"rendered":"

What we believe about ourselves and life — our self-talk — influences and in certain situations creates what happens to us. The negative thoughts we build our ceilings with include:<\/span><\/span>\u00a0 I don\u2019t deserve love; don\u2019t deserve success; I\u2019ve never won anything and never will; I\u2019m unlucky; I\u2019ll never get a break<\/i><\/span><\/span>; <\/span><\/span>and I can\u2019t — just can\u2019t<\/i><\/span><\/span> \u2013 <\/span><\/span>be happy, be loved, or win <\/i><\/span><\/span>something worth over $200 at DealDash<\/a><\/i><\/span><\/span>.\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

These invisible ceilings made from words, thoughts and beliefs can be sturdier than ones built with wood. The key wordS in that sentence are <\/span><\/span>can be<\/i><\/span><\/span>, because we can also tear ceilings down that don\u2019t work and then redo them. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Only this time around we\u2019ll construct ceilings high enough to allow us to experience happiness, success and wins.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Recently, I became embroiled playing an online video game designed to stimulate the mind, increase creativity and problem-solving abilities, and promoted as a tool to help prevent dementia. I did well at most games on this site until I started playing a certain level of a game. No matter how hard I tried, I could not win. And I tried. Every day I practiced obsessively, but no matter many games I played, I couldn\u2019t win.<\/span><\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

I kept hitting the ceiling I had created<\/span><\/span>, a ceiling I reinforced daily by saying \u201cI can\u2019t win.\u201d<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

One day I remembered what a friend taught me when he noticed that I was immersed in negative self-talk. \u201cDon\u2019t say you can\u2019t do it,\u201d he said.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

“But I can\u2019t,\u201d I said.<\/span><\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u201cThen say \u2018Up until now, I have been unable to do it.\u2019 That way you give yourself room to tear down that ceiling and succeed.\u201d<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

His words helped. Eventually I did what I hadn\u2019t been able to do.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

What still astonishes me is that each time I finally break through a ceiling \u2013 such as when I finally won that video game for the first time — is that from that moment on, doing that thing becomes easier and easier. The belief that we can do it removes the ceiling and dissolves the impossibility.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Realistically, we won\u2019t win every time we enter an auction. Most of us have low streaks, those times when things don\u2019t come as easily. Then times change and we\u2019re back on a roll. But usually after we do something once, something we previously believed was impossible for us to do, we find ourselves doing it over and over again. It\u2019s not as difficult anymore.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

We become believers in ourselves.<\/span><\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

When we break through a ceiling and do something for the first time, we change our self-talk. Now we base our beliefs on reality, not on wishing and hoping. We\u2019re not the little train that could. We\u2019re the train that did and does.\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019m not a doctor. I don\u2019t know how neurons and the pathways to the mind work, the ones that then connect to our skills and abilities. But breaking through that ceiling sure feels good.<\/span><\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

You deserve happiness, respect and success \u2013 however you define success. If you\u2019ve created a ceiling that\u2019s blocking you from winning at DealDash, here are some tips to help you redo the ceilings you create: <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n